That isn’t selfish. It’s responsible. It’s for the same reason that you are supposed to put your own oxygen mask on first in a plane crash. There is only one me. It’s nobody else’s responsibility to make sure I’m OK to do the work I’m here to do. If I...
Change in Direction.
We are all a work in progress. You may have noticed that I recently changed the name on my Facebook Page and am evolving the message on my website. So what’s that about? I finally have enough energy to explain. 2020 has been a very challenging year for almost everyone...
Let Them Speak
Every time I shared a piece of my story, and was witnessed by somebody who didn’t shame me, a little piece of the shame would fall away. I healed a little. It was hard (so hard) to do the sharing for the first time though. I would not have willingly...
Live from the Snake Pit!
From 2019. Being in the middle of a PTSD flare-up can be a bit like being in a pit full of snakes, sometimes. You will be trucking along OK, and then suddenly life pulls the rug out from under you. A rug you didn’t even realise you were standing on....
How Buffy Helps Me Process Big Emotional Themes.
From 2019. One thing I learned from Mentors of the past that seems to be true, is that you have to feel your stuff. The feelings have to be present. And you have to acknowledge them and feel them in order to heal the associated wounds. I think that’s why...
The Evolved Warrior.
From 2017. The Evolved Warrior is the archetype I use to identify the victim who has risen through the ranks of her pain to claim her power. (Or his. Men need this work too.) She has fought hard every day of her life. She has gained strength that few appreciate....
Trauma – a Full Body Experience.
Have you ever had a traumatic experience? An accident, domestic violence, sexual abuse, a near death experience, death of a loved one or some other life-altering experience? Did you know that these experiences get stored in your body? Cellular memory is a thing, and it means that you are holding...
All Magic Comes With A Price.
From 2016. I've been watching the series "Once Upon A Time", with my daughter, and what Rumplestiltskin says is true. So does all healing. Just think about it. There is not a single pharmaceutical medication that does not come with a side-effect. I see clients with conditions like MS and...
The Watermarks of Trauma.
From 2016 I've had trauma in the past. Lots of it. And I've worked through it and minimised the effects of Post Traumatic Stress. That was all quite a while ago, and I'm doing really well now. I'm a survivor. I've become what I needed to, in order to not...
Trauma and Suppressed Memories.
From 2016. Trauma can be a funny thing. So often people have no accessible memory at all of traumatic incidents. Just as the physical body sometimes encapsulates something foreign, in order to protect the rest of the system, the conscious mind can sometimes seal off memories that it deems are...